In the spirit of not doing I am hereby sanctioning the undoing of the following things this holiday season…
Disclaimer: with the understanding that this list is entirely flexible and, as such, I may decide to do, redo or double undo anything the hell I want on it.
I give anyone reading this permission to act in accordance with this List of Undos if so moved, and to anyone further moved to draft their very own List of Undos I graciously offer explicit and enthusiastic permission to do so. However, if that puts pressure or stress upon you in any way please do not feel obliged. Feel free NOT to do it.
Let the asskicking commence!
Holiday Undo List
1. I shall not fret about getting the perfect gift for anyone.
2. I shall not overbook myself to the point of a meltdown.
3. I shall not allow the insane button to be pushed by others and lose my cool, thus defeating the very purpose of the hollyday.
4. I shall not eat myself into an altered state of purgatory a la late Dom DeLuise because, even though it may make others feel safe and comfortable, it just makes me feel sick.
5. I shall not have an agenda of any real kind.
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How will I accomplish this? Ah yes, do not underestimate the number of quivers in my bow-case. I have a plan, and this plan is…
A list of alternatives to the aforementioned points of undoing above, also known as….
The Instead List!
Instead I will…
1. Give the gift of my company, love, homemade sunshine (smiles and chuckles) and baked goods in a pretty wrapping!
2. Be where I want to be, when I want to be.
3. Go to the exquisite haven in my head, created especially for occasions that provoke undesirable behaviours in others, and/or go for a little walk if need be, all the while remembering: it’s not me, it’s them OR it’s me NOT them.
4. Eat with intention. Be clear. Then eat.
5. The only agenda is to enjoy without harming myself or anyone else. Loving. Being. Loving being. No schedule. Just being love. Mantra, repeat.
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What are the things you are most looking forward to this holiday season ?
What are the things you are most dreading this holiday season?
If you aren’t dreading or looking forward to anything, what’s up?
Lemme know, I’m curious.
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Fade to black
I invite you to consider this space as you would a cherished friend’s sprawling deck overlooking the garden on a sunny weekend afternoon. Enjoy a cocktail, but please know this: kind words enhance while negatives detract. Keep it nice. Keep it clean.
Or just keep it.
I’m not decorating for the holidays. I’m not even getting a Christmas tree. Really. Not at all.
I’m baking. Also eating frosting. and buying presents, but I’m not killing myself with stuff. I like this.
Love the whole concept of un-doing. I also think your post applies to life not just the holidays: give love, be where you want to be, eat with intention. It all makes so much sense. But it begins with un-doing the shoulds and the have-tos and then going with more coulds and love-tos. I must say, your disclaimer is awesome. As always, you are the rocking-est!
Thanks for both lists, especially the one about not over-indulging in the food department. That one I can relate to as I try to moderate what I eat on a daily basis.